The Purity Project of OKC

by Luke Gilkerson, Blog Editor for Covenant Eyes

Accountability is one of the foundational principles of Covenant Eyes. Our software is a tool that allows people to take another step in vulnerability and honesty.

What Christian men and women often think about when they hear “accountability” is a small group sitting in a circle discussing their failures and addictions. They may picture a late night phone call to another struggling brother to confess the latest blunder. For those who need to get their sins into the open, this type of accountability can be therapeutic.

Peer accountability and support groups can be helpful, but many times these situations end up being “the blind leading the blind.” Confession of failure is expected in these settings, but lasting change is often not expected. I’m not talking about the quality accountability that helps people get to the root of their temptations or addictions and uses the Word of God to transform thinking. I’m talking about the kind of minimal “accountability” that serves more as a way to ease one’s conscience, like a band-aid over a cancerous lump. (Read on …)

by Luke Gilkerson, Blog Editor for Covenant Eyes

Why Accountability?

Recently, I explained the idea behind Covenant Eyes accountability software. The response I received was “That’s creepy.”

This is a typical response. The idea of a detailed Internet-usage report being sent to designated accountability partners sounds like a subplot from 1984. Big Brother is watching you.

What benefit does accountability of this type have? Why would anyone endorse* such a program. (Read on …)

When I first begin to see the damage that was happening in my life due to my involvement with porn, I knew that I had to quit right away. I was convinced that porn was a bad thing in my life and I was ready and willing to stop. The problem was, I couldn’t stay stopped! To those who don’t have a porn problem it is hard to understand why someone can’t just stop what they are doing. It doesn’t make rational sense! I was once like them. I thought that once someone made up their mind to quit that they’d stop just like that. So, I made up my mind to quit “just like that” and it worked for a short period of time and then, to my dismay, I would fall away once more and become more involved with porn than ever before. I did this yo-yo thing for a number of years. It never worked. Each time I failed I became more miserable and frustrated with myself. What I have learned is that becoming free of porn is a tricky process that takes some time. I wish it could happen by resolve alone; but, I have learned that it doesn’t work like that. While there are many things that help one get porn out of their life, there is one thing that absolutely must be in place. (Read on …)

Accountability¹
As men, we carry our pride like a badge of honor. We use it for a shield against anything that might threaten our self-esteem. We hide behind it when other people attempt to offer suggestions which, if followed, would require us to change our courses in life. We know better than anyone else what is best for ourselves. After all, we managed to bring ourselves to the place in life where we are. And we will do a fine job of going on to the next step. (Read on …)