The Purity Project of OKC

I read in the paper about the husband of a co-worker who is going to prison for at least six years. His crime was a natural extension of his long time addiction to pornography. He crossed a legal boundary and used concealed television cameras to spy on young girls. The man was a deacon at a local church. He had a respectable job, a lovely wife and beautiful children. His wife is devastated. His family is torn apart. To someone who doesn’t have a problem with sexual addiction, this man’s unlawful behavior is not only disguisting but totally incomprehensable. They ask, “How did somebody like that get to where he is today?” To those of us who suffer from sexual addictions and compulsive behaviors, we know that there for the grace of God, go I. (Read on …)

by Luke Gilkerson, Blog Editor for Covenant Eyes

Accountability is one of the foundational principles of Covenant Eyes. Our software is a tool that allows people to take another step in vulnerability and honesty.

What Christian men and women often think about when they hear “accountability” is a small group sitting in a circle discussing their failures and addictions. They may picture a late night phone call to another struggling brother to confess the latest blunder. For those who need to get their sins into the open, this type of accountability can be therapeutic.

Peer accountability and support groups can be helpful, but many times these situations end up being “the blind leading the blind.” Confession of failure is expected in these settings, but lasting change is often not expected. I’m not talking about the quality accountability that helps people get to the root of their temptations or addictions and uses the Word of God to transform thinking. I’m talking about the kind of minimal “accountability” that serves more as a way to ease one’s conscience, like a band-aid over a cancerous lump. (Read on …)

There is an old saying that where the attention goes the energy flows. It’s a way of saying that what we do is based in what we think. As a man thinketh, so is he. The same is also true about the mind and pornography. There is a very real body-mind connection as it relates to pornography and pornography addiction. The more we constantly pour pornographic images into our minds, the more poison we add to our lives. At first it is hardly noticeable; but in time, we will witness the mind deadening and life draining outcomes in our lives. Pornography is a dead end. The more we drink in the images, the sicker we become. The sicker we become, the more our lives don’t work. The more our lives don’t work, the more destruction and chaos we leave in our wake. At some point, if we don’t stop poisoning our minds, we will self-destruct. (Read on …)

When you have a secret in your life, it takes more energy than you might think to hide it. Someone once described it to me like trying to hold a life raft under water. Imagine the energy it would take to do that! We only have so much energy in our lives. We can either use our energy in positive ways or we can use it negatively. One of the negative, and most draining, ways we can use our energy is to maintain a double life. One of the first questions that Sexaholics Anonymous asks is: Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life? It only makes sense that it takes twice the energy to live a double life. To live this way we’ll spend great amounts of our personal power to maintain secrecy and hide things from ourselves and others. This drains us of the power that we need to solve our problems and live happy lives. The energy we spend to hide the negativity in our lives comes at a great cost. Are you you using your energies to keep up a double life of secrecy about your use of pornography or other improper sexual behaviors? (Read on …)

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. 1st Corinthians 10:12

For each person there is a besetting sin. But for those of us who suffer from sexual addictions and compulsions, the lust of the eyes is one is the most tempting to us. (Read on …)