The Purity Project of OKC

Remember, the following is a parody of a serious problem. Take the opposite of what we say!

Now-a-days there are any number of websites giving advice on how to quit a porn habit. Though we are sure that these sites mean well, we think it is about time that someone or somebody writes an article to help the person who wishes to keep their porn and/or sexual compulsions intact. We must warn you that keeping a porn habit going over the longterm is a fine art and takes dedication. However, if you will but try, it is possible to keep this habit going for years upon years. It is with this in mind that the people of the Purity Project of Oklahoma City offer you ways to keep your porn habit always active. These have been field tested by our people who successfully used them for many years. Because we firmly believe in truth in advertising, we think it is only fair to warn you that when we stopped doing the things we describe in our article, our porn habits promptly went away. At the present moment, none of our members are under the influence of porn, so you may well need to take what we say with a grain of salt. (Read on …)

Adapted from Sexual Healing: God’s Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives by David Kyle Foster. Please visit his website at http://masteringlife.gospelcom.net/.

1. Masturbation can be the vehicle whereby the inhibited person maintains their propensity to remain self-contained and in need of no one. It deepens the trenches of loneliness, self-pity and self-centeredness.

2. Masturbation is a turning in on one’s self - a narcissistic neurosis that feeds introspection and other dysfunctional directions. This kind of inwardly focused life robs people of the fullness of life that Christ came to give. (Read on …)

This article is reprinted by the kindness and permission of Jayson Graves, M.MFT Sexual Addiction Specialist, EMB Program Director and Executive Director of healingforthesoul.org. We encourage you to visit his Healing for the Soul website and learn more about this important work. More information about Jayson and his work is provided at the end of this article.

Conditioning

“WOW that felt good!” This is a common cognition when a man has an orgasm, otherwise known as an ejaculation. What most people don’t know is why an orgasm feels so good. In fact, the reason it feels so incredible is the same reason why some men form addictive patterns at the neurological level in their brains through a process known as “conditioning.” (Read on …)

This article is reprinted by the kindness and permission of Jayson Graves, M.MFT. We encourage you to visit his Healing for the Soul website and learn more about this important work. More information about Jayson and his work is provided at the end of this article.

Where am I headed?

Have you ever wondered, “Okay God, I know what I’m recovering from, here-but what am I recovering to?” Ever felt like, in a sense, recovery needs you more than you need recovery (in such a formal, programmatic way)? Well, if so, I say “HALLELUJAH!” The truth is, you are pondering one of the most important yet overlooked aspects of recovery: Vision!

I want to give you a way of thinking about Vision that will pull your recovery from sexual addictions into the future. My heart is to share a few ideas about areas where you can pay attention and with following-through, enrich the process of recovery with greater meaning, radical redemption, and down-right Kingdom authority. I also want to warn you about some common challenges to Vision to help you anticipate how the enemy will try and take you off your God-ordained course. (Read on …)

This article is reprinted by the kindness and permission of Jayson Graves, M.MFT. We encourage you to visit his Healing for the Soul website and learn more about this important work. More information about Jayson and his work is provided at the end of this article.

Early beginnings

I remember the first boy I ever had a “crush” on: his name was Robby and we were both 12 to 13. I just remember noticing him in a different way and wanting to be close to him. I wouldn’t call it necessarily a sexual thing although I’m sure he may have showed up that way in dreams. Rather, the feelings I had towards him were more about wanting what he had: he always seemed to be very positive and confident and was one of the popular kids yet showed kindness to the likes of “nerdy little me.”

Looking back at that today as a counselor who specializes in helping men with sexual addictions and unwanted same-gender attractions, I can see that it was part of the beginnings of the distress I would feel about these feeling over the next 2 decades. The beginnings had roots in more than just feelings, however—they were the result of many factors—understanding these and seeking the road map to God’s grace has been the key to overcoming. (Read on …)